Is Possessiveness an Element of Love?

Definitions:
1. L.O.V.E. (verb): Unconditional, selfless, giving, sincere, stable. It is about making logical decisions and practical choices. God is Love, Agape Love.
2. Being possessive (adjective): Showing desire to possess or retain.
3. Desire (noun): An unsatisfied longing.
4. Long for (verb): To earnestly or vehemently wish for.
5. Earnestly (adverb): To show with intense feeling.

6. Vehemently (adverb): To show with strong feeling.

Possessiveness in the eyes of Terisa:
Possesiveness is a desire, an unsatisfied longing, an/a intense/strong feeling; to possess. Unsatisfied longing is a constant want, like an unquenchable thirst, an unsatisfiable hunger. Possessiveness, being a desire, is hence self-love. Because one who is possessive, constantly desires to possess what/whom he/she himself/herself desires/wants most; usually in the place where he/she is most/more aware of his/her own needs/wants than what is best for the situation, or what is better for the other party(ies). It is emotion-based and illogical.

Possessiveness is therefore not an element of love. Love is unconditional. When you have an unsatisfied longing, you have an almost endless expectation, your giving is conditional. In this case, how can love be love if love is conditional? Love is selfless. Yet possesiveness is a desire and desire is a longing for the things that pacifies the fire in you. Possesiveness is full of self-love. Love is stable. Yet the source of possessiveness is the emotional longings you have within. How can anything fully motivated by emotions be stable? Emotions (feelings) in themselves are unstable. Emotions do not make logical decisions or practical choices, hence they do not promote decisions or choices that are best for the situation or the party(ies) involved.

Why then, when you love someone, you become possessive?
Then that is not Agape love, that is eros love. Eros love is more of an infatuation. Your love is motivated by the fact that the other party manage to feed you with what you need. For instance, attention, time, praises, gifts, hugs and kisses, etc. This kind of love is conditional. The reason why you eros love that person is because he/she is, by far, giving you what you need (usually emotional needs). Conditional love is therefore the main reason why, today, marriages fail, courtships not working out, youngsters and even adults find "love" in all the wrong places, from all the wrong people.

Okay, once in a while, the so-called lucky ones manage to find partners whose emotional needs match with their own, and so they compliment one another. But what future does conditional eros love holds? Can you trust in your man/woman for a long-term, blissful marriage? Can you even trust yourself to be able to love him/her "till death do us apart"? Not me, really.

You would need your Stronghold, your foundation deeply based on the unshakeable Rock, your Source of Love endlessly supplied by Love Himself; if you would lean on Him, draw from Him, press into Him, focus unto Him, trust Him; love and romance will never be the same ever again, it will become magical!

Unknowingly, I got the answer. Hence the more I learn to turn my head away from the natural to look at my beautiful Lord of Love, the more the sense of possesiveness in my flesh will be transformed into love.

& the greatest of these is L.O.V.E.